Equifinality

The most dangerous person I ever met was a retired Mossad killer.

I know, I know, I spent a decade giving my American friends crap for assuming every Israeli knows a Mossad killer, and here I am telling you about literally knowing one. In my defense, I don’t actually know him. We merely spent a long weekend together on a bike trip through the Israeli desert, together with a friend of mine who used to go by the name Guttman the Gray and another guy called Shayke who went on to become a Zen master in Northern Israel.

Yep, we were huge dorks, but we didn’t care.

Danny, the retired guy, was an unimposing, short man in his 60s, with a belly, long and wispy silver hair, and a lisp. He made his own energy bars. He was a recluse. What I’m trying to say is he made George Smiley, John le Carré’s fictional anti-hero spy, seem like an upstanding member of society and a raging extrovert. However, since we were all obsessed with martial arts at the time (and for almost a decade afterwards), he was willing to offer some of his knowledge. And his knowledge came down to this: it’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.

It sounds stupid. I knew it was stupid: there was a reason MMA had weight classes and if I tried to sweep a guy 40 kilos heavier I’d get a sprain (I tried, and I did). Small guys don’t win in straight up fights. This oddball “Mossad guy” wasn’t going to tell 23 year old me what winning a fight was all about. I had teachers. I was informed.

And then, to make his point, Danny took my friend down, mid conversation, out of nowhere, with a shoelace. No, I have no idea how he had a shoelace in his hand all of a sudden and frankly I couldn’t retrace his actions to save my life. I do know this: one moment the guy, a head taller and probably 50 kilos heavier than Danny, was standing. The other moment he was down and was not a happy camper. For us, fighting was wearing our nice training gear and bowing to each other and then engaging in some gentlemanly exchange of blows. For Danny, every second was a chance to kill you when you weren’t looking.

This was my first visceral “oh shit” moment. I had an immediate epiphany that maybe I had no idea what I was talking about, and that with enough constraints removed there are many ways to reach a goal. Quite literally, there are many ways to kill a guy. The weekend continued with a more mellow tone. Suddenly we didn’t feel like we had a lot to contribute to the discussion.

I think about that episode often when facing adversity. I learned, years later, about equifinality: the principle that in open systems a result can be reached through multiple paths. I’ve always disliked riddles, most board games, and generally situations that force you to accept arbitrary limitations set by others. Conversely, I’ve learned this is one of the main reasons I enjoy startups. There are many ways to solve complex-enough problems.

Remembering equifinality is a good way to develop an antifragile mindset. It helps me process advice about dealing with covid-19 and generally any chaotic situation. No one really knows, and there are many ways out of this, and like one retired guy who may or may not have been a real killer, once I accept there are very few constraints, I can reach incredibly creative solutions.

A warrior walks into a room: startup founders right now

My Sensei’s teacher used to say: “When a warrior walks into a room, everyone is a little bit safer.” Now there are no real rooms, just virtual ones, but I still think it’s true. A warrior joins a conference call, and everyone calms down just a bit.

Startup founders are warriors. Maybe the tide is turning and not everyone’s got bathing suits on, but we are. We thrive on chaos. We seek risk and uncertainly. Boy, did we NOT sign up for this but we ARE going to make the best out of it, and we’re going to pull everyone else up with us.

Warriors fail. Warriors sometimes lose. Not everything works out in life and maybe your company will fail. I will do everything in my power to make mine thrive. I do deeply hope that everyone stays healthy and safe. We don’t guarantee victory but we guarantee we have a shit-ton of fight within us. On social media, in conference calls, in company Q&As, in group emails, in slack channels. Get your shit together. You have a job to do.

A warrior walks into a room. You walk into a room. What are you going to do? I know my job. Do you?

NOT as usual, if you need to connect, I’m at osamet67@gmail.com

The decade of Should

Why do I do what I do? I could quote Ozymandias or the story about the Businessman and the Fisherman. Instead, here’s this tweet from Andrew Wilkinson.

What a stark difference from self indulgent “How to be Successful” twitter nonsense threads from SV luminaries yet, still, too prescriptive and infused with unacknowledged privilege. It’s not that he’s wrong; it’s the distinct “welcome to everyone else’s life” vibe, the discovery of the joy of fishing once you’ve built the business rather than just enjoying fishing in the first place, that I both strongly identify with and feel is, at the same time, incredibly ridiculous.

I don’t have any aspirations to tell others what to do. The past decade has been insanely good to me, through a combination of luck and hard work. Coming into this decade, and starting the fifth decade of my life, I’d like to remember that the Big Things we think matter, really don’t that much. That I matter a lot to a few people and I don’t matter all that much to most people, and that’s just how life is. That after satisfying my basic needs it’s more important to think whether I should do something rather than whether I can. I will continue making mistakes, but maybe less. I hope to enjoy the journey more. Most of all, I hope to not take myself too seriously.

CEO dinners

A few years ago one of my HR people suggested that I start having small CEO dinners with teams as a way to get to know people, talk about the company, and create another forum to exchange ideas. I liked the idea immediately. Earlier this year I also ran across this story about Greg Popovich and how he uses dinners for team building. It all made sense: eating is a communal activity and connecting around a shared meal is human nature (though we go to a reasonably priced tapas place in SF, not a Michelin-starred restaurant).

Since I’m not much of a smalltalk aficionado I had to find a structure that worked for me, and I settled on personal histories. Each participant (these are usually very small events of up to 6 people including me) spends some time talking about their personal history, in as much detail as they would like, and answer questions from others if they’re open to them. I’ve listened to some incredible life stories and perspectives this way and even more than they helped my team connect with me, CEO dinners helped me connect with my team beyond the 150 person point, one that have I never crossed before as CEO.

I found that most people have a really hard time talking about themselves, even if they desperately want to share. I also found the people’s stories change as they attend more dinners, either because they highlight different aspects of who they are, or because they’re more comfortable sharing. I’ve had to learn to ask questions in a non-intrusive and empathetic, genuinely curious way, to get people to open up. It helps that I really like these people but it didn’t happen by itself. Naturally I also put my foot in my mouth several times with ill-timed questions. It’s a process.

Having small-forum CEO dinners that people choose to attend, and learning how to ask people questions became an important way for me to connect with my team, especially as it is growing. I recommend you try it. Just don’t take my usual table at [restaurant name redacted].

Founders, VC funding won’t save you

A few weeks ago I made a silly Twitter joke about starting a fund that invests $300 to make you a unicorn. 99.99% of the readers got it. A couple dozen people who showed up in my DMs and pitched me seriously did not. At some point I even asked what they’d do with $300 and one guy said “maybe buy a ticket to an investor meeting”.

This isn’t good. Not only because it reeks of desperation, but because it signifies a fundamental misunderstanding of venture capital funding and how to use it. I see two reasons for this misunderstanding: founders internalizing the constructed narrative around VC funding as the panacea for tech startups, and VC partners’ branding as enlightened king makers. Both are wrong.

Not enough people talk about VC funding being a tool in a tool box, and those who do often talk their niche position rather than make a general argument on how companies can grow. Companies flush with cash also tend to make a lot of noise (then mostly die with a whimper) on “tech blogs”, the startup world’s Instagram. In addition, many founders have been mostly in school, where you study in a constrained system and get graded by someone, so the North Star metric of funds raised seems appealing.

This is insane. It creates crazy situations. I don’t talk to many early stage founders and I’ve already come across people who are trying to raise millions to fund products that 1000 users could pay for. A two-digit team with only one developer and no one else even learning to code. A team of “business founders” unable to recruit a single developer, raising money to employ contractors. If this sounds like your company, stop raising right now. You’re already failing, and if by miracle you manage to raise funding you’ll just fail slower.

The other issue is the VC narrative. Most VC partners are smart and talented people who mean well and try to do right by everyone. They are also virtually indistinguishable; much like buyout firms correctly think every technology company tastes like chicken (Robert Smith WSJ story here), most VC funds are commoditized agents, pulling money from common resources and deploying it into an undifferentiated deal flow. As commoditized agents do, they invest a lot of time in branding, focusing on outsized successes (infrequent) and conveniently tucking away failures (the norm). Founders fall in that trap like many others do, and hope to be the next anointed genius, talking about “investors who can help us” with starry eyed devotion. It doesn’t last. VCs usually can’t really help you. It is not the VC’s fault and they’re not the bad people here. It’s just reality.

If you’re starting a company, especially if doing so for the first time, you owe it to yourself to understand all the tools available to you. You have to think clearly what success means, and plan accordingly. See yourself, investors, customers and other players for what they are – imperfect players playing a game. Don’t lose yourself in it.

What’s a Chief of Staff

I have a chief of staff at TrueAccord as of 2019 and I had one at Klarna. I see people hiring for chief of staff who don’t really have any staff, which is interesting. I think CoS became a fancy term for an executive/personal assistant or a stand in for ops manager, and that’s unfortunate especially for people who take this mislabeled role and then try to get hired as a CoS under someone who knows what to expect.

So by elimination, what a CoS is not: they are not in charge of the exec’s calendar, other than for meetings that really manage staff (e.g. staff weekly operating meeting, KPI dashboard, monthly and quarterly planning, etc.) They shouldn’t be doing your expenses or getting lunch when you’re in back to back meetings. There’s a place for an assistant but a CoS isn’t it. A CoS isn’t an operating executive either. You hire an executive to do a job you’re currently doing, only better than you. They are often a subject matter expert (even if that expertise is people or general management) and they take on operational responsibilities and manage to goals through others. While in a big enough company the CoS may manage the office of the executive (including the assistant, for example), they are not operating independently of the executive.

A chief of staff is an extension of the executive. They often have some overlap in interest, capabilities, and responsibility areas with them. Other than operating cadence for the exec’s staff, they mostly work on ephemeral projects aimed at progressing the exec’s tactical interests: solve a tactical issue, pressure the organization to progress on a specific task, and so on. While they represent the exec they are not them, so they can act with similar authority but not be as intimidating which is helpful when putting the pressure on lower levels of the organization. At TrueAccord, my CoS facilitates weekly leadership meetings, supports budgeting and board meeting prep, and then works on a variety of tactical projects, spending time with analytics, client success, accounting, or sales as needed. There is a lot to be gained from hiring the right person to be your CoS to do the right type of work. It’s a waste to do so to make yourself feel important.

About finding your place

It happens that a man is born into a foreign land.

It happens that although he has a father and a mother, brothers and sisters, a language and culture – he is actually from someplace else, and he doesn’t know that he is. He agonizes his whole life, until he realizes it, and starts his journey back to his homeland, one he never visited and no one can guarantee even exists.

This man is born into hell, and initially he doesn’t know that it is hell that he was born into.

He goes on to live his life, stumbling over and over, and only after a long while something happens: a moment of grace, when he gets to see – if only for a fleeting moment – his own place in the world. A torn postcard from his place, let’s say. Or someone who’s from there that passes by and smiles – a moment that changes his life, because he suddenly realizes that that place exists. That he isn’t dreaming. That there is a better life than the one he’s living now. And, of course, at the same moment he realizes that he’s living in hell.

(Uzi Weil, originally in Hebrew. The bad translation is mine.)

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I was standing in the middle of the dance floor, suited up. The speakers were blaring pop music from the stage above the DJ, where one of the country’s most popular singers gave a full performance. I was surrounded by tall, beautiful, extremely trendy people drinking cocktails and yelling over the music, or taking a photo of the singer on their phones.

This launch of a new European investment fund was wrong on so many levels.

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I fell in love with Silicon Valley on my first visit. It wasn’t nature or the weather. It was the people. So charmingly approachable, and enthusiastic, and authentically interested in technology. So awkward and obviously using well rehearsed communication protocols that they reverse engineered. It was geekdom. I was hooked.

It took me two and a half years to get my Green Card. When it was time to prove my vaccination history for the application process I just re-took all of them, because it was much shorter. My corporate-appointed immigration lawyer asked me to stop pushing her to handle the process faster. I was obsessed. I was going to be a part of the action. Silicon Valley was my place.  

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Every attempt I’ve seen to replicate the Valley misses by a long shot. It happens when you focus on appearance instead of essence, and forget history. It’s easy to focus on Elon Musk, the guy with the perfect hair who was dating that actress or singer. Who cares. Elon Musk who started PayPal was a geeky, balding guy who teamed up with a crazy hedge fund manager who wanted to overthrow the government with a new currency, and fought him tooth and nail until they both became rich. Microsoft is this software behemoth and Bill Gates is a billionaire but he’s also the world’s worst dad dancer who forgot to eat if he got into an argument, and destroyed his opponents without making eye contact.

Try to observe what makes this place tick. Listen. Don’t fixate on the end condition. Don’t fixate on the glamour and survivorship bias. Silicon Valley is what it is because geeks built it and geeks maintain it. That’s the one thing those other ecosystems get wrong. They have lunch meetings and take five-week vacations. They won’t help unless you give them equity. They promote within their well-defined cliques. They try to get a project funded with a part time CEO and a 20% “chairman of the board”. They invite models and pop stars to launch parties and think the deal flow will just reveal itself. That’s missing the point.

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Popular culture looks at the Valley’s successes and misgivings and weaves a narrative. Sure, it’s over funded, and over hyped, and over the top in many ways. It has a ton of problems. It’s starting to crack under the hype and abusive behavior by people who don’t get it. Silicon Valley is counter culture, even if what it counters varies and changes. It always tries to oppose, and sometimes forgets to lead. It is also a source of aspiration and inspiration to everyone in tech. It sets a tone.

My talk for TrueAccord’s 2018 Holiday party

Welcome, everyone, to our annual Holiday party. I’m so happy to see so many faces, people who’ve joined us this last year and people who’ve been part of the team for a few years now.

We’ve grown in so many ways as a company, and I want to take this time to thank all of you for your hard work.

I also want to tell you a story.

Lately I’ve been binge watching Chef’s Table on Netflix. I get inspired by people talking about their passion, so even though I’m not much of a cook, I love hearing others talk about cooking.

I watched it for a while and started noticing that there were episodes that left me inspired and ones that didn’t. And after some reflection, I realized the ones that didn’t inspire me were the ones with a glitzy success story focused on one lone genius figuring it all out on his own.

The chefs that inspired me were the ones who faced adversity. They experienced grief. They took time to figure things out. Their episodes showed their family, and friends, and coworkers —of people spending time, together.

Because it does take a village to build something great—a great restaurant, a great company. It takes a community. And the stories we tell about how we got here and what’s coming next matter. A lot.

When we started this journey five years ago, we had a simple story. We wanted to use technology to change debt collection.

Over the years, we grew. We added more people. We added more voices. Our story changed with the people who joined, because each person has added his or her own perspective.

With time, we realized that we have a bigger role to play than we first thought. We are not just about a great customer experience. We do much more than that.

We meet people at some of the worst times of their lives and we offer them a different story about debt, one that doesn’t rely on shame and guilt to collect.

We lead with empathy. We listen. We respect who they are, and where they come from. This is as important, if not more, as giving them the payment plan they were looking for.

What you do here, at our company, makes a difference to those people. We are entering 2019 with almost [redacted] consumers in our system. We [redacted] in a single year.

Everyone’s noticing. We even inspire traditional collectors to do things differently, from using our language to using new technologies.

Most of all, our customers are noticing—like [redacted], who wrote to us, saying “Your emails and messages were kind, understanding and indicative of the truth—which is that I’m a good person who fell on hard times, and was too scared, afraid and stuck to know what to do… You never gave up on me, and so when I could, I did everything I could to create a way to work with you to pay back my debt.”

We are writing this story together as we go, rewriting pain into hope and despair into inspiration.

Which leads me to you. To all of us.

I started having dinners this year because I was trying to figure out what makes a company great to work at after the first hundred people have joined—what attracts the type of people that makes work enjoyable.

This question led me back to empathy and our ability to listen to one another. To weave our stories together as we build something great.

All of us: those who had to grow up fast and those who took time to figure things out. Those who had sheltered lives and those who had to literally fight for their lives.

Those that faced rejection. Those that struggled to be accepted. Those who overcame adversity. Those who have failed, and yet still get up. And those who won. All of us.

Look around you. This is your team. This is your company. This is your story. What you choose to add to it may forever alter its nature.

The recent graduates thinking about their career paths. The seasoned veterans who joined to make us even greater. Everyone in between. It does take a village to build what we’ve built.

Now, I don’t know what the future holds. I think 2019 is going to be a great year. I think we’re going to continue to face adversity and win, again. I think we are going to expand our reach like never before.

No matter what we do, it’s going to be a great story. I can’t wait to hear your part of it as the year unfolds.

To where we’ve been, and where we’re going—together! Cheers to 2019.

What happens after you’re hot

I love learning from other CEOs, but it’s difficult. Most conversations with CEOs are disingenuous because they are always posturing, and contrary to what I used to think, honesty doesn’t always help them open up. Especially not in the distributed corporate that is Silicon Valley. Whenever I do get some authentic interactions, my favourite type of CEOs are those who founded and run companies that used to be hot, but aren’t anymore.

Note, not failed companies. Most of them run companies that are bigger and/or have higher top line than TrueAccord or ones that were acquired. They used to be hot because they operated in a hot segment and VCs were throwing money at them and their competitors. They raised a bunch because you eat when you’re fed. Some of them are running 300-500 person organizations with deputies with incredible pedigrees and well oiled sales machines. By all accounts they should be on the top of the world.

Like everything else, though, it’s not always the case. Interests aren’t as aligned once you’re not hot. Reasonable acquisitions are rejected, sometimes undermined, because investors think they can get a bigger number to put on Twitter. Founder comp doesn’t get updated as fast as their needs. The push for growth creates unprofitable behemoths that have to continue to raise from an ever shrinking pool of organizations (each managing more money than ever, for sure) and getting profitable seems like an ever elusive dream. Struggles for control are common and if founders are not, say, geographically removed or otherwise protected they face imminent risks to their role. Most of all, they are tired. The 5 year mark is a real thing, and yet these founders don’t feel like they can rest; sometimes they don’t even feel like they can hire a second in command because they fear a VC implant that will undermine them.

I learn a lot from these founders because they are grizzled veterans by now. They’ve seen a lot. Most of them will continue to succeed and the majority of their days and weeks are on a high note. It just serves as a constant reminder for me that there is life after being hot and the strings you agreed to when you thought this wave will never break create a pretty mean entanglement. It’s one of the most crucial issues we don’t spend time thinking about early on that comes back to haunt us later.

Mercenaries

The rise of Silicon Valley and its financial success also initiated the rise of its mercenary class. These are smart, capable, well spoken people who spend more time building their career trajectory than making the teams they are a part of succeed. They have social media presence and impeccable resumes (of course). They expect people to talk a certain way, behave a certain way, care about a certain type of visibility.

Mercenaries want to work with me. Not all of them and not all the time but I do check the boxes for mercenaries. Exits, expertise, “serial entrepreneur” (please). I talk in that fast, cutting style and use SV vernacular because I’ve done most of my professional speaking in SV. In their limited pattern recognition I’m a strong positive.

Only I’m a false positive, because I won’t work with mercenaries. I curated TrueAccord’s culture to resist and repel mercenaries. The company is driven by a literally disruptive mission. Investors are curated because they have to believe in our long term plan. Employees are curated because I’m experienced enough to hire for talent and not for pedigree. There’s no elbow rubbing in the biggest DreamForce reception or getting on TechCrunch or writing up you “Three Tips To Giving Feedback” on First Review. These are distractions and the people who don’t get that need not apply.